5.讓别人依賴你

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5.讓别人依賴你



    讓别人依賴你。神之所以為神,不在于人們裝飾其雕像,而在于人們誠心誠意地崇拜他。智者甯願他人時刻需要自己,而非感激自己。保持他人的希求是智慧的,期望别人的感激是愚蠢的;期盼讓人牢記,而感激使人忘卻。受人依賴,比受人恭敬更有益。人解了渴之後,往往轉身離開井邊;橘子一旦榨幹,便會被人從金盤子中扔到垃圾筐裡。當人們對你的依賴消失,良好的品行和尊敬也會随着消失。努力保持人們對你的渴求之心,且不使其得到完全滿足,這是最重要的人生經驗之一。此法讓你變得不可或缺,甚至連王座上的君主也永遠需要你。但是不要做得太過分,以免誤入歧途,也不要為了一己之私而讓别人陷入病入膏肓的絕境。

    

5.Createafeelingofdependence



    Createafeelingofdependence.Nothethatadornsbuthethatadoresmakesadivinity.Thewisemanwouldratherseemenneedinghimthanthankinghim.Tokeepthemonthethresholdofhopeisdiplomatic,totrusttotheirgratitudeboorishhopehasagoodmemory,gratitudeabadone.Moreistobegotfromdependencethanfromcourtesy.Hethathassatisfiedhisthirstturnshisbackonthewell,andtheorangeoncesuckedfallsfromthegoldenplatterintothewaste-basket.Whendependencedisappears,goodbehaviourgoeswithitaswellasrespect.Letitbeoneofthechieflessonsofexperiencetokeephopealivewithoutentirelysatisfyingit,bypreservingittomakeoneselfalwaysneededevenbyapatrononthethrone.Butletnotsilencebecarriedtoexcesslestyougowrong,norletanother'sfailinggrowincurableforthesakeofyourownadvantage.